Audit your relationships

Don’t accept your relationships as fate…you can choose who you want in your life Given that humans are social animals, I’m amazed at how little attention we give to who we relate with—who our friends, associates, and partners are. Because we seem to be “running on autopilot,” most can’t really explain why they hang out with the people they are with. Being a Zen guy, I work hard at paying attention, part of which is having a clue about my choices. However, as I think back to my young adult years [a LONG time ago] I see how often my choices were not choices. I ended up in a lot of relationships because: someone showed interest in me, or I was physically attracted to someone, or I was in proximity [a group, club or a team] After much agony over what turned out to be ‘bad’ choices, I decided to really think about who I wanted as friends, as clients, and especially as my principal partner. I invented what I call The List of 50 [which can be downloaded free from my website], a method for identifying what I want in my relationships. OK, so here’s the point. Living life…